The foolproof signs that they want to be (much) more than friends...
Extracted from Superflirt, by Tracey Cox
Is he interested in me?
Legend has it that men make the first move. The truth is that women have always
made first move and orchestrated the pace, flow and direction of romantic
relationships.
Masters of intuition and emotional manipulation, women are adept at body
language, able to gauge the emotional temperature of a room quicker than our
nipples stiffen in a breeze. You can bet your next G&T, if he's on his way over,
you were the one who lured him there.
Women choose from no less than 52 moves to show men they're interested. The
average bloke chooses from a maximum of 10 to attract a female. Rather good news
then that the average female is usually quite good at deciphering body language.
Just in case you're not, I've included the obvious, along with signals that are
more subtle, secretive and downright loony.
14 sure-fire ways to tell he's interested
1. He'll serve you an eyebrow flash
When we first see someone we're attracted to, our eyebrows rise and fall. If
they fancy us back they raise their eyebrows.
2. His lips part
If he likes what he sees, his lips will automatically part for a moment when
your eyes first lock.
3. His nostrils flare and his face generally "opens"
The raised brows, parted lips, flaring nostrils and wide eyes give the whole
face a friendly "open" expression.
4. He'll try to attract your attention
Any exaggerated movement or gesture usually means he's trying to stand out from
the group. Another giveaway: he'll unconsciously detach from his friends by
standing slightly apart, hoping to be seen as an individual.
5. He'll stroke his tie or smooth a lapel
We all know what these preening gestures mean. They're the equivalent of the
female lip lick - "I want to look good for you".
6. He'll smooth or muss up his hair
Guys do this involuntarily and more often than you think. Glance back next time
you trot off to the loo and I bet his hands are already on their way to touch
his head.
7. His eyebrows remain slightly raised while you're talking
A slightly surprised, quizzical expression means he finds you fascinating.
Or completely bonkers. Quite frankly, either is preferable to a man who looks at
you with a smooth, relaxed brow and eyes. That one simply finds you boring.
8. He'll fiddle with his socks and pull them up
If a guy pulls up or adjusts his socks in your presence, it's an almost 100
per cent sign he's interested and trying to look his best.
9. Everything is erect
Ahem. What I mean is he'll stand with all his muscles pulled tight, to show
his body off to best advantage. He'll also stand directly in front of you to
show full attention, and lean forwards to get closer.
10. He'll let you see him checking out your body
Some experts call it 'visual voyaging' - his eyes take a little cruise
around your body, stopping momentarily at the prettiest ports. Don't kid
yourself: he scanned your body automatically the second he laid eyes on you. The
difference here is he's letting you see him do it. The message: I'm considering
you as a sexual partner.
11. He'll give you a crotch display
He'll spread his legs while sitting opposite, to give you a crotch display.
He's letting you have a good look at what's on offer. Hopefully he still has his
jeans or trousers on at the time.
12. He'll move into the 'cowpoke stance'
The cowpoke is a primary male courtship gesture of the Western world. He
locks his thumbs in his belt or belt loops, points his finger down towards his
genitals, spread his legs about shoulder distance apart, and tilts his head to
one side.
13. He'll touch his face a lot, while looking at you
If he's keen, he'll stroke his cheek up and down with the back of his
fingers, touch his ears, or rub his chin. It's a combination of nervous
excitement, preening, and autoerotic touching.
14. He'll start squeezing his glass
When men are sexually interested, they start playing with circular objects.
Why? They remind him of your breasts: his body is 'leaking' what's happening in
his subconscious mind.
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